Self Check-In Questions You Should Ask Yourself Weekly
Humans are subject to feeling a range of different emotions as a response towards a variety of stimuli, whether it be from the workplace, family, peers, and personal goals. However, a common misconception is that these emotions are always a burden. These emotions that we feel can be powerful tools in assisting us towards a better lifestyle if analysed and assessed properly. This inquiring and identification of emotions is also called a ‘self check-in’. Regular self check-ins are vital to ensuring optimum well-being and mental health, as by doing so, you identify patterns in your thought processes and can actively work on changing your mindset and cutting off toxic habits if required.
That’s great. What should I ask myself?
This article aims to inspire you with potential questions to ask yourself during a self-check-in. We’d recommend you to ask yourself these questions at the end of each day, however, the least you could do to start is to try doing this weekly! Sometimes, a single question ensues an abundance of follow-up questions which correlate with each other. Take the time to listen to your thoughts when your mind prompts you to!
1. “What emotions have I been feeling, and why?”
Identifying the most prominent feelings that you have experienced over the week is one of the most integral self-check-in topics you could ask yourself about. Have you been consistently happy, sad, or angry? Have there been sudden peaks of a certain emotion? The next question that follows after identifying the patterns of feelings within the week is: “why have I been feeling that way?” Have you been feeling sad and devalued when you are around a particular person for prolonged periods? Has your workload been causing your stress levels to shoot out of the roof? To ensure that you remember these things, even if it seems minor, it is advisable to keep track of your emotions by jotting them down in your journal or diary at the end of each day, so that you can review them at the end of the week.
By identifying these, you can now make the next step by finding a solution to alleviate these problems. Perhaps you’ll need to cut off a toxic friend who has been making you feel less than your worth, or you realise that your habits of procrastinating your assignments until the day it is due are not a good idea, so you must try to change how you allocate your workload. After all, change can only happen when the problems are identified.
2. “Am I making the best use of my time, or have I procrastinated too much?”
This point relates to the aforementioned question. How you spend the majority of your hours can impact your mood. Do you spend most of your time doing things that are pointless to your overall well-being and life? For example, do you need to finish an assignment so that you wouldn’t feel worse when you face the potential punishment due to a bad grade, which makes your state of mind worse? Something to note is that ‘doing nothing’ isn’t necessarily a bad thing. Everyone requires a little break to rejuvenate and to take care of themselves. However, prolonged and unnecessary periods of procrastination and relaxation can also prove to be detrimental as when required, your productivity is hindered. Therefore, checking in with yourself whether you have been productive or had too much rest can prompt further action to help better shape your habits.
3. “What can and can’t I control right now?”
This may seem like a strange question, however, asking yourself this is essential. Oftentimes, we spend unnecessary amounts of time stressing over things that we do not have any influence over, such as how other people react to us, or what people think about you: the kind of inevitable things. Separating the manageable events that impact your feelings from those that you can’t help you to maintain focus on the circumstances that you can control, such as how you treat others and how much time you spend being productive against the hours available. This prevents you from feeling additional stress and unnecessary concern.
4. “Which relationships do I appreciate at the moment, and which do I not?”
While asking yourself this, keep in mind that your self-check-in questions should revolve around yourself, even if the people around you can influence it too. Checking up on your relationships with friends, family, and employers are important to make sure that they are not dragging you down excessively. You may notice that a friend is being very controlling and is draining your confidence – the best choice is to cut off a toxic person like that. Unfortunately, cutting off people who impact you negatively is not always possible, therefore, the next best option is to avoid contact with them whenever you can. Do you feel guilty for snapping at your brother for being annoying? Do you owe him an apology? By assessing your relationships and how you stand with other people, you can dispense of the people who do not appreciate you, improving your well-being.
Humans are not made to be happy all the time.
To quote one of my favourite musicals, ‘Heathers’: “If you were happy every day of your life you wouldn’t be a human being. You’d be a game-show host”. Of course, I’m sure game-show hosts have their bad days. That being said, do not fret if your emotions are not necessarily on the ‘socially accepted side’. It is alright to feel sad, angry, or worried, despite the widespread conviction that ‘negative’ emotions are always harmful. It is essential to process your mental processes through a range of emotions. As long as you keep track of how you’re feeling and identify the reasons behind it, your emotions will aid you in living a better life. Acknowledge yourself!
If you feel like your emotions are getting out of hand, you could go see a therapist or counsellor at your institution. You could even talk your problems out with a close, trusted friend. Mental health should not be looked down upon, so don’t feel ashamed if you feel the need to get some extra help.