How Saying Yes Led Me To New Opportunities
1. Saying YES gave me experience
2. Saying YES helped me build my self-confidence
3. Saying YES taught me how to fake it
I looked at him, bewildered. It was 2 hours before the said gig.
I can carry a tune, but I’ve never performed songs that are not church songs before. I felt in my bones that I was going to make a fool of myself but guess what, I said… “Okay lah.”
It was a very uncomfortable experience. I was jittery, didn’t have an archive of lyrics at hand to sing from, and didn’t even know my vocal range. But I faked it. I smiled like I knew what I was doing, closed my eyes and belted some notes as if I was Adele (the sound probably not like Adele lah).
I made it out alive. From then on, I was welcomed into this circle of musicians that started to include me in their gigs if there was availability. I started singing once a month, then twice a month and at one time, even 10 times a month.
4. Saying YES stretched my abilities
The most recent ‘yes’ I said was to myself. No one but me nudged me to do it.
It was writing a fiction story.
There was a request for story submissions that I saw on Facebook last year. I didn’t think much about it, but as I lay to sleep that night, something nagged at me to just try – JUST TRY writing a short story. It may be published or it may not, but no one is going to know if you don’t tell anyone you tried and failed, right?
Rachel’s published short story in Home Groan: A NutMag AnthologyAnd so I started writing.
You see, writing fiction and writing articles is really different. It comes with a different set of rules, writing style and vocabulary. But I did it anyway. Today, I’ve completed two short stories that will be printed, and one has been formally published in an anthology. If I didn’t try, I wouldn’t even know I could carry a plot through to its end.
In hindsight, I asked myself if I would continue to write fiction if my story was not chosen to be printed? My answer is yes because every failure is a learning opportunity.
5. When to say NO
Eh, what is this? I had the perception that I should only say yes?
Darlings, in this cruel world, and I encourage you to say no if you feel exploited or if the project offered to you does not abide by your personal values or your current capacity. Say yes to expanding your ability, not changing who you are growing to become.
These are just some of the personal experiences I am sharing with you because it really helped me with my career. Will it help with yours, I am positive that it will. You just have to take that leap of faith, and most of the time, you just have to have faith in you!
Good luck, Crunchies!