Want to Know If He's the One? Travel With Him!
Congratulations! You've done it. You're now officially a couple. Gone are the days where you'd agonize over whether or not your now-partner likes you, and whether or not you should add that extra smiley in your text message. You can relax for a bit now--but not too much.
Just because you're together now doesn't mean there aren't more challenges ahead of you. For instance, one of the biggest hallmarks of a serious relationship is when a couple travels together. Be it travelling abroad or going #local, travelling is in itself a test of the strength of your relationship.
It is a deceptively innocent and easy enough an activity--after all, it's just travelling--but if you really want to know if your partner is The One, a good way to find out is to travel with them.
If you and your partner manage to brave through the challenges packaged in satisfying your wanderlust, they might just be The One.
You're going to be together 24/7
Here's the thing that people don't really think about when it comes to travelling: you're pretty much going to be together 24/7. This is especially true if the two of you decide to bunk together in the same room.
With this decision, he's not going to see you at your made-up best. He's going to see you without your makeup on, with your hair in a mess, and oh yes, God forbid, experience your morning breath. Eugh!
It goes without saying that this is a completely different ball game from your usual dinner dates. It's basically a taste of what life would be like side-by-side with your partner.
You're going to have to work as a team
Whether it is trying to figure out where the train station is or speaking in a foreign language, travelling together means you're going to face challenges together. You'll also get to see how your partner handles stressful situations, which is, again, a peek into what your future with this person would be like.
Seeing what your partner is like in stressful situations isn't the only thing you'd get out of this. Even overcoming a minor setback together is a blessing in disguise; the bond you share will come out of this closer and stronger.
You'll learn to give and take
When it comes to travelling, it can't be always be about you--even if your partner is pretty laid-back. It is important that the both of you find a balance when it comes to your itinerary. Make sure to ask your partner where they'd like to go, and add them to the list.
If you're the laid-back type, then you need to tell your partner where you'd like to go! It's perfectly okay to disagree with some parts of your partner's plan.
Giving in to your partner's every demand isn't healthy, especially if you're thinking long-term with this person. Want to start practicing some real give and take? Test it out by going on vacation together.
You'll see your partner for who they are, warts and all
Aside from letting your partner see you at your worst physically, some of your bad habits may accidentally slip through too. The same goes for them.
It doesn't matter how hard you try--more often than not, these bad habits tend to find their way to the surface. But you know what? If your relationship really is as strong as you think it is, you'll find ways to deal with them and to forgive your partner for their faults.
Nobody is perfect, and neither are you.
Written by Crunch's Melissa Kartini