Toxic Millennial Habits We Need to Reflect on to Become Better Individuals
by Fatin Hafizah. |
People have a lot of things to say about millennials and their habits. Though we can defend ourselves against most of the perceptions, there are some habits that as a fellow millennial, I personally think we need to reflect on. In this piece, we are going to look at some of the toxic habits millennials have and what can be done for us to become better individuals.
1. Constantly being on the phone.
In the world of technology, it’s no surprise that everyone is dependent on their phones. However, constantly being on the phone can block you from connecting with other people in an organic way. Being too dependent on the virtual world can expose you to the risk of forgetting social etiquette and the beauty of making a connection with someone. It doesn’t hurt to put down your phone, be present and have a meaningful conversation with other people.
2. If it's not on the gram, it didn't happen.
Obsessing over likes and views, and oversharing is honestly one of the most toxic things you can do. Not everyone needs to know what you’re doing every second and some things are just better kept private. Be a bit more mysterious; there’s beauty in not showing everything. The number of followers likes and views you have do not and will never dictate your happiness. Yes, it’s thrilling to see those notifications coming in but it won’t last. Once in a while, stop posting and start enjoying the moment.
3. Being impatient and expecting fast results.
Living in a fast-paced world, it is understandable that we all want things to be done quickly. However, there are a few things in life where patience is required. Intangible things such as love, joy and fulfilment require time and hard work. You can’t expect things to magically be perfect overnight. Something that is constantly growing will always need your time and attention. There is no shortcut to it, so we might as well learn to be patient and put in the effort. As they all say, nothing that lasts comes easy.
4. Comparing other people's success to oneself
The only time you are allowed to compare is when you want to practice gratitude or inspire yourself. Other than that, you can stop comparing yourself to other people and start comparing yourself to the person you were yesterday. Other people’s success does not mean you are not successful or on the wrong path. Everything will happen on its own time as long as you are willing to work for it and let time do the rest. Whenever you feel like you’re lacking in something, just remember these wise words from Oprah: “You can have it all. Just not all at once.” Stop comparing, continue striving and be patient.
5. Fear of missing out (FOMO)
There is this constant fear of missing out (FOMO) that is spreading like a virus within the millennial society. You see your friends’ updates and you see them out and about which then will make you question whether or not you are missing out on anything. Then, you go out, do something meaningless and go back home feeling tired. For once, let yourself be bored. Just because you’re not doing anything, does not mean you are missing out. If you are still not convinced, watch this TED Talk by Manoush Zomorodi. Quoting Ms. Zomoridi herself, “Boredom can lead to brilliance.”
6. Not checking out of work
Working hard is an admirable thing to do but working too hard to the point of leaving work late at night every day is toxic and not good for your health. We need to stop the hustle culture and make seem like working late or bringing work home is something “noble”, and we need to stop thinking that people who leave work on time are “lazy”. As long as you complete your hours and deliver your tasks as expected, that is all that matters. There is nothing more important than your physical and mental health. Work is still going to be there no matter what so you might as well take good care of yourself.
Changing habits like these is no easy battle and in fact, some of you might think there is no harm to them. Maybe there is no harm to them for now but years down the road, you will see that these little toxic habits are the ones that will break you. For a more in-depth summary of this issue, I highly recommend that you watch Simon Sinek’s interview on his thoughts about millennials, specifically in the workplace. You might not agree with him fully but there are some truths in it. So, having said that, buy those avocado toasts and lattes, and leave work on time but for a better and happier self, those toxic habits mentioned above need to be ditched.
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