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It's Important To Be Independent But Its Alright To Ask For Help Too

by Alina Wong |

Ah, independence. The ability to depend on none other but yourself, fending for your own and surviving on the various skills you’ve acquired in your life. Being independent is probably one of the hardest traits to gain especially in this day and age, where we are so clouded by self-consciousness and need for validation, independence can be considered a rare equity. However, I can confidently say that it is catching a wave.


It is truly empowering, self-governing all of your decisions and putting them to work solely on your own account. So, kudos to all you strong, independent souls out there! You are able to tackle any obstacle that life throws at you, all by yourself, or can you?


Well, I am here to let you know that it is okay to ask for help. And here are some reasons why:


1. You don’t know-it-all

Being independent doesn’t mean that you were born a genius, there are going to be things that you don’t understand, sticky situations you can’t wrap your head around, and it even goes down to a simple math equation you can’t solve. Good news, my fellow independents! The answer to all your problems is to ASK for help. There really isn’t a con to asking, you’re gaining information and knowledge about something you never knew, and that is just going to help you contribute even further to your independent lifestyle in the future.


2. You don’t have to live in solitary

A common misconception about independent people are that they are loners, and that is certainly far from true. But if you are, well, you don’t have to be. You are not alone in this world, even the strongest, willfully intact person goes through struggles. Big or small, it doesn’t matter, your troubles need that attention and support that it deserves. Help can be in the form of support or comfort and there is no shame in needing or asking for it.


If you’re self-sufficient enough to realize what is good and bad for you, surely you know that you need care and love from others to truly thrive in life too. Plus, you could also stray away from the people who care about you too.


3. You are not superhuman

Independent people also tend to have an overachieving personality, loving the challenge of juggling multiple tasks on their own and always taking charge of whatever they have on hand.

But have you found yourself overwhelmed, burning the midnight oil trying to complete all of them? I’m sure you have, because we all do. Here is where your colleagues, friends and family come into play because what can you do to ease your burden? You know it, ask for help! Just because you can hold the fort all by yourself doesn’t mean you should, there are plenty willing to lend a helping hand but only if you ask first! Your gears need resting too, so allow yourself to be aided.


4. You need a ‘partner in crime’


When you commit yourself to a task, do you find yourself secretly wanting to prove to yourself that you can do it on your own?


Simply because you don’t want to disappoint yourself. Don’t get me wrong, the sense of accomplishment – especially when you do it single-handedly – is beyond words, but did you refuse help during the process? Receiving help doesn’t take away any of that accomplishment from you, plus you’ll even be able to share that feeling with someone else when you allow them to help you. No matter what, it’s always comforting to have someone there helping you. Less work but the same amount of dedication await great results if you ask me.


Independence is one of the greatest forms of freedom, so don’t deny yourself the right to ask for help! Growing, learning and self-discovery are a big part of living an independent lifestyle, and what’s all that without a little dependence on others. Independence relies on slight dependence, how odd. Remember why you chose to adapt this lifestyle in the first place, to better yourself, and if asking for help is a contributing factor, why fight it?


‘Freedom is nothing but a chance to be better.’ – Albert Camus


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