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I Feel Lost. What Should I Do When I’m Feeling Aimless?

by Srii Ravin. |

Every day, you’re pumped up and excited to conquer what’s coming your way, however, as days go by, it no longer excites you. Then, reality hits in and you realise that life’s a routine and you’re bored with it.

You brainstorm on breaking this cycle and your efforts are fruitless as you don’t know where to begin. You got so caught up with your job and commitments, you don’t know the answer as you ask yourself: when’s the last time you did something exciting?

You’re stuck in a loop, you’re lost and you wonder, ‘what should I do?’.

Two expected reactions from this scenario. One, you’re grateful that life gave you a reality check but you’re too tired in figuring your next step. Two, you hit the panic button and start making drastic decisions in life like quitting your job and moving to a different country.

Stop. Wait a minute. (to the tune of Uptown Funk - Bruno Mars)

Breathe in and thank your fortunes that you’re at a crossroads in your life as they’re often blessings in disguise. 

Yes, you feel lost, we all do sometimes. Point is, handle this curveball that life throws at you and soon enough you’ll be back on your feet! Here are the 5 things you should do when you’re feeling aimless.

1. Do what you love.

When’s the last you did what you love? When’s the last you took the time for your hobbies? I’m not saying to do them as a stress reliever, but actually investing your time and energy in your dream project.

You’ve gotten so swamped up in work that you barely had time for yourself. So, make time for yourself by doing the things that you love. Be it writing, travelling, photography, making music, whatever it may be; as long as you pursue it to your heart’s content.

Get excited and discover your true interests as you immerse yourself in your passion. Don’t make excuses and just focus on you and your dreams, who knows? It might be from there that you find the next path you’re supposed to take.

2. Reconnect with people.

We’re all guilty of making excuses to avoid meeting up with people by saying how busy we are. In our defence, we truly are really busy, not to mention exhausted after long days of work; but that doesn’t mean you don’t catch up occasionally.

Even more so as being busy is no longer a valid excuse since your work no longer fulfills you. Do the walk of shame and go reach out to your friends you have been rejecting in awhile. Catch up with them, reminisce on good old memories and remind yourself of who you once were.

Never underestimate the power of a conversation as you never know what you might stumble upon. Talk openly when you catch up, and if it’s a trusted friend, let them know what’s happening! Chances are they might feel the same as well and may even be able to help you out. Even if they can’t provide you with any form of help, it’s always good to catch up with your friends nonetheless, there’s more to life than work and commitments.

3. Actively look for inspiration.

It’s not wrong to be nosy if you use it right. Basically, if you enjoy listening to other people’s stories then focus on listening to success stories that would inspire you. Read the biographies of your idol or watch videos on their life journeys. Even better, watch Ted Talk videos as they cover a range of topics or listen to podcasts that interest you.

There’s a lot of inspiring stories out there and you just have to find the one that keeps you motivated. No one’s asking you to do all four, just choose one that you will pay attention to. Commit yourself to an hour of either reading, watching, or listening and you might find the hidden gem that can give you a shove in the right direction.

4. Conquer your fears.

Cliché as it may be, this is the exact point in life that you should conquer your fears. Physically and mentally, being lost is scary and it’s even scarier when you can’t find your way out.

It’s undoubtedly true that when you overcome your greatest fears, you’re no longer afraid. Start by overcoming your small fears like speaking in public, writing, and etc. It’s great if you can overcome it in the first try but do it consistently and build your courage slowly. Eventually, you’ll be good at it and you’ll realise it was never scary to begin with, it’s just your fears acting as your mental (and eventually physical) blocks.

I’m not telling you to go all gung-ho and try to overcome your big fears, for instance, conquering your fear of heights by going bungee jumping or skydiving. It sounds great and all but if your willpower doesn’t match your enthusiasm, don’t force yourself. It would only bring you more harm than good. It’s okay to start small and build yourself up, it’s not a race.

5. Go with the flow.

Lastly, enjoy the ride no matter how bumpy it gets. See, life is a funny game with endless detours and roadblocks. When you think you’ve got it all figured out, it hits you with a reality check. When you think you absolutely can’t do it, things work out in your favour.

What I’m saying is, live life with an open mind and embrace everything that comes your way! Sure, it’s easier said than done but life only moves on when you make the effort to move on. Instead of wallowing in your miseries, be proactive, take some time out for yourself, and when you’re ready, come back and fix what needs fixing.

You won’t be lost for a long time unless you choose to be. Pick yourself back up and do one thing daily that inspires or excites you. Feeling lost is a sign that great things are coming your way and you have to make way for it to truly understand the greatness that is meant for you.

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