How to Handle Stress and Challenges When You are an Extremely Emotional Person
by Fatin Hafizah. |
Functioning as a highly sensitive person is no doubt a challenge. Functioning as a highly sensitive person when a challenge arises is even more challenging. An extremely emotional person tends to empathise more hence making it easier for them to become emotionally drained. Whether it's you or somebody else, here are some simple ways in coping with stress and challenges as an extremely emotional person:
1. Set up boundaries
Everyone has a set of boundaries that they have set for themselves whether it is intentional or unintentional. It's important to be aware of your limit and don’t be afraid to confront them when your boundaries has been crossed. Be assertive and firm in your stand so that you won’t have to jeopardise your needs. Get to know yourself. As years go by, your boundaries might change and that is okay. When you have boundaries, it is easier for you to tell yourself and others that it is time to disconnect for a while and whatever problems you’re facing will be dealt in another time when you have a clearer mind.
2. Identify your triggers
Challenges and stresses do not just magically appear. Most of the time, something would have triggered it. It's high time to recognise and identify them. So, when the next problem arises, you will be one step ahead of your problem making it easier for you to tackle it head-on. By identifying your trigger, you will also be able to anticipate your reaction hence giving you more control in the situation.
3. Be mindful
Okay, I know. This is easier said than done. Especially for the overthinkers. Every time I try to be mindful, my mind will do what it always does and that is to think about every tiny detail of my life, no matter how big or small. According to Sarah Wilson, author of first, we make the beast beautiful, we must learn to check in with our inside people. Our inside people here are our thoughts. Sarah’s advice is to take the time to check in with your thoughts daily and make sure that everything is aligned. The process does not have to be big. It could be a two-minute of self-reflection or one hour of journaling. Either way, this will help you be more in-check with your feelings and surroundings.
4. Create a quick solution to calm yourself
Sadly, for some people, when things get hard, we tend to shut down. One way to counter this problem is by creating a quick and simple action which we can do whenever we feel overwhelmed with a situation. For example, I was watching Kids Baking Championship one night and one of the contestants just freeze himself whenever he is feeling overwhelmed.
When I said freeze, I meant he just stood there and stopped interacting with whatever or whoever was in his way. He, later on, explained that it was his way of meditating/keeping calm. From thinking it was silly (because I thought it was funny how he suddenly just froze in the middle of chaos), I was suddenly in awe with his action. At only 10 years old, he was able to identify his trigger and create a quick solution to his problem. Respect!
5. Be yourself
How many of you have been told “You need to take a chill pill,” “You’re overreacting,” or “Don’t be too emotional”? Well, we are on the same boat and I am here to remind you that you do not have to change yourself to conform with society. However, I do advice you to learn to choose your battle. Of course, it is still okay to be an emotional person but if there is one thing life has taught me, it is the fact that not every situation needs a reaction. So, sometimes you just have to let it go. No action is a reaction itself. Whatever people say about you being emotional, don’t let it harden you. Be soft but wiser.
Problems will occur no matter how much we try to avoid it and sadly, there is nothing we can do to stop it from happening. What we can do however is take control of the situation. Applying all these pointers take a lot of grit and practice. That’s okay. Be calm and take it step by step. There is no need to rush. After all, nothing can be mastered in one night. Take it one day at a time and if you fall back, rise up again. There is nothing wrong in doing things over and over again if it bears a lesson. Last but not least, be gentle with yourself and others. The world needs more people like you.
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