10 Things That Don’t Matter When You Like Someone
We all have deal breakers, essentially a list of traits that we won’t tolerate in a partner. But then there are some of us who take that list a bit too far, and end up with one that is a mile-long. Yikes!
Not only will this severely cut down on your chances of finding someone who might actually be right for you, you will scare off potential candidates as well. Honestly, who would want to deal with someone who seems so demanding and disagreeable?
For a better dating life, here’s a list of things that shouldn’t matter when you like someone:
1. Their looks. So the person you like doesn’t look like a movie star. Ask yourself, “Does this really matter in the long run?” No matter how you look at it, it doesn’t. Looks fade with time, and if you’re going to spend the rest of your life with someone, it might as well be with someone whose company you enjoy. At the end of the day, you’re dating a person, personality and everything, not their face.
2. Their body. Do you really need a beau with a six-pack? One can definitely see the appeal, but if you’re going to forgo someone just because they’re a bit chubby and don’t have a six-pack, you’re not going to have a good time.
3. Their height. It’s perfectly normal to have a height preference, but their lack of (or excess of) height shouldn’t be a deal breaker. The man of your dreams might just be an inch shorter than you’d expect, or Mrs. Right might just be slightly taller than you. Don’t dismiss chemistry just because of their height.
4. Their sense of style. Find their sense of style embarrassing? Some people just prefer to dress comfortably rather than to blow it all on clothes, and… Let’s just agree that all these superficial things don’t matter at the end of the day, okay? (Besides, if things start getting serious, you can always buy them something they’d look good in… Or throw away their ratty old polo shirt when they’re not looking. You didn’t hear this from me.)
5. Race. If the only factor that is holding you back from being with someone is their race, then you’re missing out. There is nothing wrong with interracial relationships. If anything, it can be an opportunity to learn something new by sharing each other’s cultures. FACT: It is because of this quality that interracial couples tend to be more open-minded, mindful and have greater depth of views of people in society.
6. How much money they make. Money would be nice, but just because your beau doesn’t make as much money as so-and-so, doesn’t mean they can’t make you happy. A life of luxury isn’t going to make you happy if you’re married to a douchebag.
7. If they still live with their parents. A lot of millennials are still living with their parents. Unless they’re making absolutely no effort to save money and are just leeching off the latter, this shouldn’t be a problem. It just goes to show that they are being fiscally responsible. There isn’t anything wrong with saving for a better future now, is there?
8. What your friends and family think. Who is dating that person, you or your parents? You are. While it would be great if your friends and family love your new beau, it is your opinion that matters the most in this situation. Now, unless they start expressing concern that the person you’re seeing might be abusive, you needn’t pay attention to what they have to say.
9. If they’re well-traveled. Not everyone gets the opportunity to travel abroad, and think of it this way, this is a chance for you to explore the world together. The thought of which makes it even more exciting, doesn’t it?
10. If they’re awkward. Some degree of awkwardness is part of the parcel of the initial stages of dating. And if they’re just naturally awkward, well… It’s just part of their charm, isn’t it? Nobody is perfect, and you aren’t either. Lighten up a little.
Written by Crunch's Melissa Kartini