• Melissa Kartini

10 Online Dating Tips for a Better Dating Experience

Updated: Aug 6, 2018

Online dating- that’s where desperate people who can’t get a date to save their own lives go to, right? Home of the socially awkward, creepy and the weird. Wrong. Online dating is quickly becoming one of the most popular ways to find love, so it’s well about time to shake that outdated thinking!

With millions of online daters across the globe, online dating really isn’t all that bizarre. It’s part of the modern, digital age and honestly a great way to meet new people.

So if you think you’d like to give it a try, take a look at this list for a better dating experience.

Make sure you’re ready

This might not be immediately obvious, so it needs to be said. Before you venture into the world of online dating, make sure that you’re ready for it. Whether you’re looking for a genuine relationship or have just left one, be open to meeting someone new. All of your emotional baggage from past relationships ought to be where they belong- in the past. Your potential love interest will thank you for it.

Take the time to write your own profile

This is a no-brainer, but it’s amazing how this gets messed up a lot. So I’ll make it clear right here: the best way to attract like-minded, worthwhile people is by writing a decent profile. List out your interests, sound positive (bombarding everyone with a list of pet peeves and curse words will drive them away) and keep your profile as brief as possible. In an era of social media, it’s best to keep it short in to grab attention.

Tip: Avoid describing your personality as this can be very subjective. Exp: You might think you’re funny, but other people might not.

Read other people’s profiles

Another no-brainer, but you’d be surprised by how many skip this step, especially when it comes to image-focused apps like Tinder. Certainly, it might feel troublesome to take a few seconds to read someone’s profile, but you’re saving yourself a lot of time in the long run! Just think of the number of time-wasters you’re filtering by just doing this. And really, you might just miss a great match by simply swiping left without reading that sacred biography.

Put photos of yourself

That’s “photos”. Plural. One photograph isn’t enough to determine what someone really looks like, and honestly speaking, it can look suspicious if you only have one picture. Be prepared to provide a good selection of photos, preferably those where you’re looking your best and doing what you love, and please make sure that they’re not from 30 wrinkles, years or kilograms ago. You don’t want to oversell yourself.

Be open-minded

Ditch that wish list of yours and be open-minded. Of course, it’s not wrong to have a set of traits you’re looking for and absolutely will not compromise on, but be reasonable. Shave that list from 15 to maybe 3, and you might just have a better dating experience. Who knows, the man or woman of your dreams might be an inch shorter than your expectations, or they might live just a kilometer away from your preferred distance. Cast a wider net- you could discover a preference that you hadn’t thought of if you had stuck to your old list.

Stay safe

Don’t lull yourself into a false sense of security just because you’re sitting behind a screen. This is the internet, and just like the real world, there are weirdos out there. Think very carefully before giving out personal details like your phone number or address to total strangers. And never, ever accept a ride from them; you’d be leaving yourself at the mercy of a total stranger.

Meet quickly

While it might seem like a good idea to chat for ages before finally meeting, this could lead to having unrealistic fantasies about your match. And when you finally do meet, you may end up disappointed, or find that the chemistry isn’t there. Exchanging a few messages before deciding on whether to go on a date is enough; there’s no need to drag things out for weeks or worse, months on end.

Don’t fall in lust with a photo

It’s easy to fall in lust love with a photo, but remember that while it would be great to have a good-looking partner, looks is something that should be placed in the “would be nice” category, instead of the “absolute must”. At the end of the day, the one you’re going to date is a person, not a photograph.

Don’t expect too much

Bear in mind that the person you’re meeting is a stranger, and that they’re human too. So forgive the little mistakes they might make during the first date (it’s only natural to be nervous!), or the fact they might have a pimple or two or that they might have a bit of a tummy. In the case of the last two points, we all put our best face forward when it comes to profile photos, and your date might not be having the best day when you meet.

That said, if your date is 20 years older in real life or looks nothing like their photo, run.

Don’t lose motivation

It’s easy to fall into the trap of losing hope in online dating, but just like other forms of dating, it takes up a lot of time, money and energy. So be patient. It’s exceedingly rare to meet the perfect match within the first few, let alone first try, which is why it’s best to approach the matter with a level head. Get to know the person in front of you, and if it doesn’t work out, take it as a learning experience and move on to the next. You’ll meet your Mr or Mrs Right soon enough.

Written by Crunch's Melissa Kartini

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